Best Way to Approach Men or Women

Best Way to Approach Men or Women

Most people have only one question when it comes to online dating. What is the best way to approach men or women in an online dating site. There might be numerous answer around the web, but the best answer is applying KISS (Keep It Simple Stupid) theory. Given below are some quick and worth trying advice, that one can follow in online dating.

Constructing that first message on an online dating site can be a challenge for many. You don’t want to say too much or too little or get lost in the mix. These tips will help to make that first contact a great first impression.

First tell him/her what prompted you to write. Tell them what qualities you were attracted to and what it was about them that made them stand out. No need to be over the top, just keep it simple and be direct.

Be yourself and show off your personality. Use language you would normally use, don’t try to impress them with what you think they want to hear. Keep your language and words to those that you would use in normal everyday conversation. Don’t come across as desperate. Spilling your guts right off the bat could be a real turn off.

Talk about things you have in common. If you share similar hobbies or interests, mention them. It will open the lines of communication, and ask open ended questions. Remember this isn’t a talk show so don’t play twenty questions. Asking a few will help spark a dialogue.

Keep it simple. This is not the time to write an essay. Your first contact should be short and sweet.

Close the message with a positive and humble note. Simply say you are looking forward to hearing back from him/her. Don’t try to market yourself by saying something cheesy like “write back soon, you won’t be sorry” or “you don’t know what you are missing.” That is sure to inspire them to round file your message and move on to the next person.

And make sure you REALLY read their profile. One of the biggest complaints singles have about online dating is receiving messages from men and women who obviously ignored their profile.